When your husband actually says the words, “I don’t love you,” the hurt comes in waves.
First, there’s shock and bewilderment. Your mind races with questions. How did this happen? How long has he felt this way?
Then there’s terror. What does this mean for our future? For our marriage? For our kids?
Then there’s deep, deep hurt. He doesn’t love you. Does it mean you’re unlovable? Making that immense pain stop becomes your imperative.
You feel the urge to protect yourself with aloofness or insults. It’s just human nature. Flinging some hurtful arrows his way seems not only justified, but necessary.
But the words, “I don’t love you,” can be the breakdown before the breakthrough. They can be the gateway to a marriage that exceeds your imagination, where you feel as loved and connected as you did when you were first dating. And you can have all of that with the guy who just said he didn’t love you, or is acting like he doesn’t.
Here are 3 secrets for getting from here to there: